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Most days I dream about quitting and throwing my license in the garbage. I just want to be happy. I’ve been doing this for 5 years started at 20 now 25. I’ve never felt so exhausted and burnt out in my entire life. The pay is garbage in this economy for the amount of BS you have to put up with. Management is useless and never helpful. Constantly having to anticipate whether you’re gonna get physically or verbally assaulted before each shift. If I could go back and talk to my 18yr old self I would scream to never join this godforsaken field :/ I wish I had an ounce of energy to even look into another career I hate this :( submitted by /u/Jaded_Grape5271 [link] [comments]
I'm interested in pursuing precepting experience, and coaching and teaching new nurses. It sounds like a fun and interesting opportunity, but I've never been in a teaching like role, so I'm not sure how to tackle that. I kind of instinctively know how to do things off of muscle memory and clinical judgement I spent years learning. I don't want to say nursing at this point is second nature, but it's more of something I do, not something I consciously and meticulously analyze. So how can I be a good teacher? submitted by /u/princessnokingdom [link] [comments]
I finally got a new job—same specialty (Med-Surg), totally different hospital system—and I am completely flabbergasted. We started the shift with 4 nurses and 3 techs for only 11 patients. On top of that? The majority of these patients are completely ambulatory. Like... holy moly, I’m actually bored. The only real hurdle I’m hitting right now is getting used to Epic. Meanwhile, all my new coworkers are constantly complaining about how "awful" and "terrible" it is here, and how management expects "so much" from us. I just sit there in silence because coming from my last job, this feels like a walk in the park. It's so easy I don't know what to do with myself. I genuinely regret taking so long to leave my old position. If you’re drowning at a toxic or short-staffed facility, please take this as your sign: the grass really can be greener on the other side. . submitted by /u/Educational_Ad2515 [link] [comments]
It was supposed to be better. I did 3 years in med-surg. I did 6 years in the ER. I had enough of the patient abuse, the abuse from doctors, the abuse from leadership. I thought it would be better, so I got a desk job as an assessment nurse. My orientation was a complete mess, i basically had to wing it on my own. The patients are still abusive, just over the phone now. My manager is completely useless, but micromanages us all. The job is essentially impossible when it comes to making my daily quotas for assessments. I’m a year in, and I honestly am hating it. So what next, because I’m out of ideas when it comes to nursing. I honestly want a job where people are pleasant, goals are attainable, and I can just be a human being outside of work. I want to not have to bring the burnout of this profession home with me every day. I’m crumbling. I am about to start applying to Costco or Trader Joe’s. submitted by /u/ConsistentTourist553 [link] [comments]
I'm a new grad, starting out PRN at a place I really like. I was offered a 3/12s shift on weekend. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I have a two year old so this would help daycare bills, but also would never be able to do family outing together on the weekend. Anyone else work this shift with kids/husband? How did you like it? Would it be worth it? submitted by /u/zsmith_ [link] [comments]
Moving to a state where the peds hospitals are significantly better than the adult ones so thinking of jumping ship to peds, possibly PICU or peds onc. I have 1yr experience in adult med onc. Any advice? I have zero experience with children. I couldn’t tell you the normal BP for a child at any age. I have no idea what to expect. What should I know going in? What are good peds resources to review? Thank you!! submitted by /u/pro-pangea [link] [comments]
I feel like a bad preceptor today. I’m a med surg nurse with a little under 2 years experience and I have my first orientee. She’s been with me for a little over a month and she’s doing really well. She’s at the point where I go with her for her first assessment and med pass, but for the rest of the shift I pretty much let her do her thing and just go with her for new skills or answer any questions she has. Today we worked together and we had the same patient group from the prior day with 2 new patients. One of the new ones wasn’t very high acuity but the other was due to oxygen needs. The high acuity patient ended up needing a transfer to a higher level of care and long story short, I was basically babysitting that patient for 4ish hours of the shift until his prog bed was ready. He went in spurts of increasing oxygen needs, had multiple trips by RT and the physician to bedside to reassess etc etc during that time. While I was handling that she was carrying on with the other 4 patient
hi, i’m only two years in as a medsurg RN and it’s honestly been draining me… i’ve just been dreading work every shift and i feel like crying everytime i have to go to work… i feel so tired and i can’t even call in anymore because we accrue like 2 hours every paycheck (paid biweekly) idk what to do anymore because i feel like i’m getting sicker & sicker the more i work this job but i’m also in debt i haven’t had a general health checkup yet for the past 3 years (pls don’t judge) bc i just lost all motivation and i’m also scared to go to the doctor and find out that i have many health issues (it’s also so hard to schedule one) i can’t quit because i’m in severe debt and it’s funny bc i wished for this job but i’m not sure if i’m really happy with it submitted by /u/sprinklecelest [link] [comments]
I’ve been a nurse for 30+ years, and have no back pain. I paid attention to lifting techniques, and will never solo lift a resident if I can’t handle their fall. I’ll grab help for everyone I know I can’t safely manage, despite weight. The 200 lb resident? 2 person for safety for all. Never arms around my neck. The 67 lb fragile resident? Needs 2 to protect her skin from damage/tearing from too much unilateral pressure. I balance it by being 1st to help my CNAs with messy/heavy/combative residents. I have a good relationship with my team, and that’s the key to effective care. (Med-surg/LTC) submitted by /u/Aevynnn [link] [comments]
please tell me i’m not the only one. i know crying is an anxiety response but i’m not exactly anxious about having medical procedures done. people can poke and prod me and i don’t care but like the past few appointments ive had have been for a recurrent skin issue and i will have these thorough discussions while actively crying. like it doesn’t affect my thought process or anything, i just cry. i think it’s shame cause i don’t want them to view me as dirty. idk it just feels like a crime to get emotional since i provide care to patients when i’m not a patient. like i’m supposed to be strong and what not. submitted by /u/Routine_Fox_6767 [link] [comments]
edit If it matters, the cleaning of baseboards etc is only in the client's bedroom. I've been doing in home care for awhile on the night shift. I usually only have one client at a time. I currently have a special needs 7 year old. My question is: How much cleaning are nurses expected to do? I do the normal things like my clients laundry, cleaning the bathroom (that is reserved only for the nurses), wiping off desks, computer screens, light dusting on top of nightstands and his dresser, but recently the family added an entire cleaning check off list that is 3 pages long. It includes dusting all the baseboards, removing floor vent caps and cleaning them, emptying out all the baskets of supplies and cleaning the baskets, and even taking a q-tip to clean all the little fan blades on the small desk top fan in the bathroom. This list goes on and the list is on plastic sheets because they want us to sign and date each week to keep the nurses "accountable" (direct quote from mom). I know there
I'll go first: "I don't like the color." One of my dementia pts this morning. She took all of the other pills but just couldn't get this one pill down because she didn't like the color. When I tried to talk to her about, she tried to dump a cup of water on me. Pill definitely refused. On a side not: we really need a flair for fun submitted by /u/agirl1313 [link] [comments]
Do you rest, travel, hang out with friends? Im curious to know. Also how often do you have a stretch of days off? submitted by /u/Quirky_Paper9541 [link] [comments]
I love working with trachs, and wounds. I love taking care of people. But I choke on my own vomit when I have to clean up feces.. I know this is part of nursing & I need to deal with it. But how do I do that? I double mask, double glove. I want to get over this, but I don’t know how. It’s my ONLY ick. And it’s a shitty one (pun intended) for this profession. No, im not going to stop being a nurse bc of it. Yes, I need to grow tf up. I’m trying. So please give me any suggestions, I can’t keep vomiting submitted by /u/Psychological_Lime14 [link] [comments]
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My hospital recently dissolved our float pool because the nurses were "unsafe" aka too expensive. This has left our ICUs extremely understaffed and unsafe. Normally, it's a max of two patient for one nurse. If there is a critical patient, such as ECMO, it's a standard two nurses for the one patient. When our patients have a cardiac device, the patient they're paired with should have no devices. We don't pair POD 1 patients with others who are also higher acuity. Every single standard has been broken over the past couple months, and we're at our wits end. Everyone has been having safety issues and raising concerns. Admin has decided they would start staffing our ICU with floor nurses. The idea is the floor nurses take our "progressive level" patients who still aren't ready to leave the ICU. This has already caused problems. Last week, a patient declined and needed to be started on CRRT. Since the nurse wasn't an ICU nurse she had no training on the filter and couldn't manage it. The fil
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I’ve been a nurse since 2019 this year I completely forgot to renew hr finally noticed and notified me I immediately stopped working and filed for reinstatement I’m so afraid of what is going to happen it’s been 5 weeks and I haven’t heard back from the BON I know I can’t be the only one as it can easily happen to anyone please can anyone share their experience and what kind of fee/punishment I could face submitted by /u/Substantial-Hour613 [link] [comments]
I never realized how much your state can change your entire view of nursing. I spent my first year as a nurse in Missouri. Most shifts were 1:5 or 1:6 with high-acuity and heavy patients. We had one CNA cover 20 patients. Breaks and lunches usually didn’t happen, and if they did, you felt guilty taking them because everyone else was drowning. My hospital had 120 beds but could only staff about 50 because nurses kept leaving. I often left 30-45 min past my shift. The pay wasn’t much better. I was barely keeping up with rent and the rising cost of living. I honestly got to the point where I started thinking maybe nursing just wasn’t for me. Then I moved to Oregon. Now I make about double what I was making before. We have a mandated 1:4 ratio, CNAs usually have around 7 patients max, we have a resource nurse every shift, break nurse, and I actually get both of my breaks (one of those breaks is 30 min) and my lunch. The biggest change isn’t even the money. I actually have time to be a nurs
I have a few tattoos, and my hospital doesn't allow underscrub t-shirts due to infection concerns. How do you hide your tattoos if under scrub t-shirts are not allowed in your hospital? PS: my tattoos are very small, just a few hearts on my forearm..not huge designs submitted by /u/No-Amphibian4479 [link] [comments]
I put the flair as "gratitude", because as a 33 year old male, that was pretty funny to hear from the older wife of my patient whenever I first walked into the room lol. She didn't say it in a rude or insulting manner, and when I said I've been a nurse for about 9 years she was happy to hear that submitted by /u/NursingManChristDude [link] [comments]
ICU, trauma, float, ED. 15 years. Was assaulted today by a patient and her mother. The mom shoved me and the daughter threw hot soup (that i had heated up for her) onto me. Youd think it wouldnt bother me after all this time, but somehow its worse. I cant do another day. Im getting my NP, but honestly i dont even think i have the strength to care about that either. Just venting. And so sad. submitted by /u/PerformanceEasy7860 [link] [comments]
I’m having a constant issue in the ER especially when we are slammed with patients. Patients want doctors to come and update them, and I relay the information over to the doctor. I explain what ever test results I can, but the ultimate decision between admission and discharge is up to the provider. I have patients asking me WHEN is the doctor coming to speak to them. I have a hard time saying I don’t know. Our doctors have their own work flow and they do everything as soon as they can. But I cannot give them a time as to when they’ll be coming in to speak with them again. And then it gets followed up with “when you see the doctor, tell them to come in here.” submitted by /u/HumbleAd8907 [link] [comments]
Hey everyone - I work in the ER. Today I had a stroke patient who was only in her mid 30s. She was notably very scared, and thankfully had a lot of family there to comfort her. I live in the South, so christianity is king. I myself am not religious, perhaps more on the agnostic side of things. I believe in some type of higher power or energy. Anyway, my patient was asking her family to pray for her. Everyone was upset and pleading. When my colleague and I were wheeling back to IR, she kept saying how sorry she was, and that she wasn't right with god, and needed to get right with him. She kept asking god to have mercy on her and forgive her. Again, she was highly distressed, and it even made me tear up a little bit. I tried my best to comfort her, but admittedly I feel I fall short on how to respond when they were reaching to their religion for comfort. I obviously don't want to be like "god's with you, he's looking down on you", etc. But I also don't want to come off as cold or generic
I currently work as a pct on a gen med/med surg type floor in a hospital. I’m a trans man and not out (stealth) at work. I very occasionally mention my partner but I’m pretty sure they’d assume I’m gay even if I didn’t. My coworkers and the general environment is very cishet and I don’t love it. I don’t need to talk about being trans at work, but I do have experience working in more open/queer environments and felt a lot more comfortable. I know I’d be shunned and gossiped about if I did mention being trans and I don’t feel particularly comfortable mentioning my partner either. (Everyone else talks about their signifiant others, kids, and general weekend activities). I’m wondering if there are any specialities or areas in healthcare that queer people tend to gravitate to. I assume queer clinics/gender affirming care would be one area, but are there others? ETA: I already do work in a big city hospital in a queer friendly state. Perhaps it’s just the culture of my particular unit and I
Currently a new grad NICU nurse at a Level III NICU in the Midwest, coming up on my 1 year mark. I'm planning to quit and move back to CA (LA/OC area), where I'm originally from. I'm 75% sure I want to do something besides the NICU. Honestly, all I wanted out of nursing school was to work in the NICU, and now I don't even know if it's what I want to keep doing. It's been stressful, anxiety-inducing, and overstimulating. I feel like I'm on edge and high alert for all 12 hours of my shift. It’s gotten easier as times gone by but I just don’t know... It's kind of heartbreaking because I worked so hard to get here, and now I'm questioning if it's actually for me…. honestly nursing in general. Love when the babies are stable. I love the smooth, calm shifts, but when they're chaotic... I don't know if the stress of critical care is for me lol. I considered mother baby but ehh? Not really into the idea of mom baby med surg. I'm also wondering if it's the 3 12s nights that's getting to me. I w
Guys, idk if I’m reading this poster wrong cause I’m tired at the end of my shift but I found this on one of our doors. I think this triggered me so much cause lately I’ve realized that my biggest pet peeve in life is getting blamed for something I didn’t do. Like it takes a lot to make me visibly upset but when someone blames me for something I didn’t do, I become an animal. I loose it. It’s happened to me growing up and as a nurse, I’ve been blamed for stuff by patients that the doctors, pharmacists, food service, or even environmental services did. Now we’re told to apologise for things like this? Please tell me I’m tripping submitted by /u/AssociationGreedy381 [link] [comments]
Been an RN for 17 years and I’ve never felt as incompetent as I do now. This is no joke. And one of the dumbest things that I have major insecurities about is opening sterile! It is not as easy as it looks! This will be week 3 in the OR and I’m feeling nauseous…. It’s so hard. Please tell me it gets easier. It is so hard to feel this incompetent as a seasoned nurse. It’s very humbling to say the least to have nurses that are your children’s age as your preceptors telling you what to do. I wish I could fast forward this next 12 months because I am struggling. submitted by /u/Picking_Seashells_83 [link] [comments]
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im a new grad nurse who works on a neuro/tele med surg unit. im also on nights and i hate it. i love my manager and my coworkers but i am just so unstable and burnt out already, and i started this job in march and it’s only july. im also a newly diagnosed autistic with adhd i just hate this job. i hate the night shift so badly. the sleep schedule is terrible, im so depressed and i can’t eat. the shifts are constant work and i obviously don’t get any breaks. im also baseline chronically fatigued so im always sleeping when im at home. i sleep through my hunger cues and eat so much less. im too tired to cook most of the time and im so exhausted. however i don’t think i could make it on dayshift at this current point. im a slow learner and the workload on nights is much easier, except im still struggling heavily. my manager says im doing great but im hiding all of it inside. i feel like if i had a more predictable day at work i would like that but i just can’t be on nights. it’s just not d
this is a rant, but a relatively light-hearted one! I have never posted on reddit before! I am a nursing student and just wrapped up my first year of clinicals (one more year left!). I absolutely love what I do and cannot wait to graduate. I have been on a cardiac telemetry PCU all summer and it isn't my favorite thing in the world, but I still enjoy getting to help patients feel better. I want to put out the disclaimer that I am very much a young and naive nursing student and so I am still full of hope, joy, whimsy, etc. so this might be a silly thing to be annoyed about, but I wanted to ask if anyone has similar experiences or feels the same way. I just wanted to complain to someone. As a student, I have the underrated luxury of not having the full responsibility of an RN just yet, so while my preceptor is charting or doing paperwork, I like to spend extra time with my patients or help the UAPs give baths etc. (if I am on top of my own, much lesser, school paperwork). One thing I hav
I’m curious what everyone’s CPR song is. I think most of us were taught Stayin’ Alive, but I recently changed mine to Golden by Huntrix. What other songs do people use as a tempo reference? submitted by /u/TortillaRampage [link] [comments]
I sent a secure message to this one nephrologist clarifying an order for an osmo, in the comments it said blood or body fluid. When I went to see what type of tube to collect in, it was blank (Usually we do osmos in green tops so I drew it in that JIC, and sent the urine osmo). So I messaged her to clarify that the patient had no drains and the order was unclear. She then told me, you should you know this, you are the nurse, I am the doctor. If you don't know something call the lab. (very rude, no introduction, I began the conversation with salutation, greeting and introduction) I responded to her that perhaps because she is a private physician here she may not be familiar with our procedures. I informed her that I have been an RN a the facility >10 years and needed her to clarify the order. She responded - I've been a physician here for 20 years and never been asked to do this. and I responded to her, according to state you've been licensed here for 12 years. At this point she's on th
I’m at a hospital, one I don’t work at with my patient, my sister. This is THE most obnoxious thing I’ve ever seen! We were trying to watch Jaws man! And it would not go away until we selected one. We purposely stated we didn’t want bedside shift report, because nobody needs two strangers standing over them at 7am reliving their diagnosis and talking about them as if they were already dead… But no option to put, “no because bedside shift report sucks and we refused it.” But they held our movie hostage! I am so tired of all the patient satisfaction measures submitted by /u/noodlesnr [link] [comments]
in theory i want to give my coworkers that and foster healthy friendships on the unit but i am so, so tired guys submitted by /u/Educational-Tale6606 [link] [comments]
As the title says, I applied for a Registered Nurse I/Relief Nurse position with LA County. I took the DHS exam on the 14th, and three days later I received this email: EXAMINATION RESULTS Exam Title: REGISTERED NURSE I / RELIEF NURSE Exam No: YELRN4 We are pleased to inform you that your application was reviewed and verified that you’ve met the requirements for the aforesaid exam. Your final score for this examination is 100.00… BAND V (Veterans): 101-110 BAND 1: 90-100 BAND 2: 80-89 BAND 3: 70-79 I don’t want to get my hopes up too much, but is this normal? I honestly feel like maybe everyone gets the same score, so I’m trying not to get too excited. Being placed in Band 1 sounds good, but I have no idea how meaningful it actually is. For those of you who’ve gone through the LA County hiring process, is a score of 100 pretty common? Or is this actually something to feel good about? Also, what do you think my chances are of getting hired at the VA? I recently passed the NCLEX and now
Hi all, I don’t Reddit often but tonight I had a conversation with another nurse that made me question some things… please also keep in mind I may not get the exact wording right as I had a good couple drinks as well… the debate/argument (if you wanna call it either of those) basically started with her saying she thought nurses/health care professionals who are like “I’m off the clock” when in public and see something happening that requires a HCP are POS’s, and I basically responded with “I agree to a certain extent, but burnout is a real thing and some are just so fatigued that they don’t have it in them”, we basically went on debating semantics but for her it came down too there’s absolutely no excuse ever “to treat your patients like shit/be a asshole” which I never said there was (and technically we couldn’t come to a consensus on what specifically what that was so it essentially became using different hypothetical examples) and no matter the situation it seemed either 1) boundari
Quick disclaimer before you read this: this is my personal experience only. Let me tell you, my values changed with time while living in different countries and traveling. Not trying to validate or invalidate anyone else’s just sharing since so many people ask me about this. I remember when I wanted to move to Canada, everyone said don’t and in the end it wasn’t bad at all. So take all of this with that in mind. Background: got my BSN in Puerto Rico, worked there, moved to Upstate NY, then Vermont, then Quebec. 11 years total. Here’s the honest breakdown. 🇵🇷 Puerto Rico Good : • Patients and families are very involved (staff shortages mean they pitch in) • Nursing culture is warm on a personal level • Everything is in Spanish • People actually take their lunch breaks • The public system is battered, but it still covers the most vulnerable via “la reforma” Bad : • Ratios are brutal 1:14–20 med-surg, 1:2 ICU (despite Joint Commission accreditation… I knew JC was BS pre-COVID) *• Pay is s
I’m starting a new job and I’m on the hunt for the perfect work bag. I’m looking for something that’s: Cute Durable Easy to wipe clean Big enough for the essentials (stethoscope, water bottle, charger, snacks, pens, etc.) Can survive 12-hour shifts… But doesnt make me look like I’m headed out for a weekend camping trip. 😂 Backpack? Tote? Purse? What’s everyone actually using? And while we’re at it… what lunch boxes are we carrying these days? Bonus points if it keeps food cold all shift without taking up half your locker. Please send pictures if you’re willing! I love seeing everyone’s setups. submitted by /u/Blossom_RN [link] [comments]
I quit my bedside nursing job in late May on the very day I received a job offer for a clinic of doctors I worked closely with at the hospital. I didnt give notice because my last shift was terrible and anxiety producing to the point where I felt physically ill all night. A 6:1 ratio on a busy ass unit where I had three sickle cell patients, two PEG/total care patients, and a super demented dude who set off his bed alarm all freaking night. I emailed my "stand in" manager while my actual manager was on vacation, but also cc'd her in the email. She texted me yesteday to ask if I could come in tonight. I just replied with "I quit two months ago...but thanks for thinking of me..." submitted by /u/Solid_Thanks_1688 [link] [comments]
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I work in a very large hospital and was charge today (Saturday, a weekend, when no management is supposed to bother me). Came out of a patient's room and the CNO of the hospital was looking for me? She told me that nurses are "so important" and "our voices are heard" and "the grass is green where you water it", then gave me a hug and got Starbucks for our whole unit???? I've been absolutely befuddled ever since this happened, I've never met this woman before in my life? submitted by /u/sammmn27 [link] [comments]
Just a little rant. I’m applying to jobs. I’m not getting hired but I’m getting advertising for jobs (I’m not qualified for) , seminars, brunches, workshops for all of the hospitals that I applied to. For some hospitals I’m even getting advertising for health services. submitted by /u/thesoapmakerswife [link] [comments]
I'm having some serious health concerns and my PCP wants me to see gyn. My urogyn can start the work up but if they see anything they have to send me out. I got the referral for the gyn at the University hospital I work for that they want me to see and she did her training with me. We're friendly, I have her in my Instagram and we always got along well I have a mental block about her being up in my business. I could have a gynecologic cancer or something serious and I know she's a.good MD. She left private practice to go back to an academic institution. Anyone btdt? Was it weird having your friend/coworker be your doctor? Eta I'm not concerned about her seeing my vagina but I have some things in my medical and social/personal history that no one knows and I feel awkward and ashamed about it. It's obviously in my medical record, but I don't normally use doctors I know. submitted by /u/dopaminegtt [link] [comments]
I loved nursing school and loved precepting in the ER. Now that I’m a nurse i just kind of feel stupid. I feel like I’m just still waiting for someone to hang over my shoulder or to tell me what to do. I have no idea how to take any charge and do things myself. I’m terrified to do anything alone. I ask 8 billion questions before doing something as simple as giving a few pills in a cup to a patient. I feel like everyone else is a nurse and I’m just pretending to be one. I feel so dumb, i don’t know how to chart, i don’t know how to mix the meds, i don’t know the flow of anything. I just feel incompetent. I guess i just need to know if any others struggled this bad and if it ever gets better. submitted by /u/Ok_Preference_8804 [link] [comments]
For context, I work nights in skilled nursing. My tote arrived and my bf (non medical) said I should’ve put A&O x4…. but that’s the joke. He said people will think it’s stupid. What do you think? submitted by /u/Mystic_Marceline [link] [comments]
I am 37, a Registered Nurse working 36 hours a week, with a 3-year-old and a 20-month-old. I get 4 days off a week, but I am tired down to my bones. Every week, I try to wake up early on my days off to get a head start on chores or find time for myself, but my body literally refuses. My physical stamina is entirely gone, and I am completely lacking motivation. My husband is incredibly supportive and wants to help. However, I’m so burnt out that I don't even know how to direct him or structure our weeks anymore. I feel like my days off are just spent desperately trying to recover from my 12-hour shifts. For the moms who survived the toddler years while working a grueling physical job: How did you manage your time and sanity? How do you utilize a supportive partner when you're too tired to think? Do I just need to lower my standards and accept a messy house for now? Looking for realistic routine hacks, or just validation that this phase is as impossible as it feels. submitted by /u/Clean